Parenting is not easy. We all know this, we hear people say it all the time. Yet one cannot really know the full weight of it until you actually are a parent whether with your own kids or someone else’s child. But can I tell you it can be easier. No really, it can. I am not talking about smooth sailing with nothing ever going wrong. I am talking easier when it comes to training and raising your child. I have a tip for you that might just be a game changer.
People say all the time there is no instructions manual to raising your children. That is partly true: life, the doctor who help bring your child in the world, or your child will never hand you an instruction manual BUT God has the instruction manual. I am not talking about general instructions I am talking knowing the character of your child, the purpose your child came to this earth, and how to raise them accordingly. God was the one that designed your child inside and out. He is the one that gave that child to you. He put in them there unique personality: extrovert, introvert, joyful, temper, on the go, sits still for a long period of time, athletic, smart, funny, serious, cuddler, etc. The list goes on and on. God also chose the calling or purpose of the child’s life. He chose what they would be good at or what they would love to do as a career for the rest of their lives. We as parents are supposed to seek God in how to raise them and gently/lovingly point them in the direction He chose for them.
I bring up the question all the time to people what if Obama’s parents knew he was one day going to be president, what would they have done different. Would they have put him in speech class, would they have brought articles home on politics, would they have given him a different perspective of the world, would they have encouraged him to take economics. Would they have recognized his leadership skills at a younger age and tried to cultivate it and not squash it? (Not that they squashed it, it is just an example)
The Lord for me has given me different tid bits here and there about all three of my children’s personality and calling. I only have one at the moment but He has spoken very clearly about three. With my first born He told me that Social Injustice will be his calling. I said, “Okay Lord I will make sure make sure I am aware of the social injustice in the US so I can share with Gabriel what is going on so.” God said not just the US Dess but social injustice in the world. WOW! I have to for myself seek out what is going on around the world when it comes to injustice so I can share that with Gabriel. To cultivate that which is already inside of him. To bring articles from media to him. To talk about what is right and wrong when it comes to how people are treated. To be aware that it will be his passion and calling to do something about it one day, how ever that looks. God also showed me He would have a temper in which I replied, “Not problem God I will take care of it” Meaning I will squash it for you. God said no I don’t want you to squash it. He showed me what would happen if I squashed his temper. I saw Gabriel at the age of 20 sitting in a court room like setting with social injustice happening in front of him. He put his hands behind his head and his feet on the desk in front of him and did not act on it. If I squashed Gabriel’s temper he would not act on Social Injustice the way God wanted. God then explained He wanted me to teach Gabriel how to properly use his anger to fuel him to help others. WOW!!!!
With my second child who is not born yet He has shown me that she will be stubborn, and quiet but if I could describe her in one word that word would be Love. That she will go to the darkest corners, gutters, alley ways of the world and pull people from horrible situations. That she will love greater than I ever have. That I must teach her to love everyone both in words and action.
My third child God hasn’t told me too much about but God’s one phrase to describe him would be “The Fun Side of God” I saw him at one point as a comedian making people laugh, to give them relief for a brief moment from their hard lives. Joyful heart is medicine for the soul.
Do you see by finding out who God created them to be and the calling that it makes my life a lot easier. When Gabriel throws a tantrum in rage I have the grace to see that I am to help him hone that into something healthy. That when my second child gives her shoes to a person in need for the umpteenth time that I don’t get frustrated but I recognize she motivated by love. Or when my third child is trying to be funny when it is not a funny situation at all, to be patient and help him see there is a time to laugh and a time to cry.
I love this scripture about children:
3Children are a heritage from the Lord,
offspring a reward from him.
4Like arrows in the hands of a warrior
are children born in one’s youth.
5Blessed is the man
whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame
when they contend with their opponents in court.
God was showing me with the scripture that children are the arrows but we the parents are the shooters. I saw a vision of me as an archer. With my arrow cocked ready to shoot. God was standing right behind me directing me which way to shoot them. “A little to the left, up, almost there. Awww just right. SHOOT!” To help point them in the way the Lord leads us to. Will the child say yes every time to the direction we are shooting them in, no but it is our job to point them in the direction the Lord tells us to.
You need to be spending quiet time daily with the Lord. To not only to receive instructions from Him about your children but for guidance, healing, and deliverance for you. It is so important that the Lord comes first in our lives in everything we do and say. In every decision we make, in how to raise our children. He longs to spend time with you and pour into you all that He has for you, your family, and life. He will let you know, you just have to seek him. I have a youtube channel where I talked about hearing from the Lord and recognizing with he speaks. If you haven’t seen them go to my channel to watch them. They will help you with how to spend time with the Lord and will help you to hear from God. http://www.youtube.com/c/DessButler
It is so important that we ask God how to raise our children. He is our instruction manual. He knows how to raise your children, how to discipline each one, why they are acting in a certain way. He knows everything about your children. It is never to late no matter how old your child is to seek the Lord about them. He is waiting to tell you!