I think I just read my last article and watched my last video on how “natural breast feeding” is and why we as women should not have to cover up. I have watched these videos, read these articles and have been silence long enough, or maybe too long.
Years ago I wrote a note on facebook titled “The call to Modesty women of God” I talked about how men from the mission group (Friend Ships) I was with got up one day during our crew devotion and pleaded with us women to dress more modestly. “Women summer is coming soon and we are in need of your help. During this time less clothing is worn. We are asking to help us walk out our lives pure for God. If you would please dress in a way that would not make us stumble. Please when you bend over make sure you wear a shirt that does not reveal what is underneath. Please have shirts that cover your midsection no matter what way you move, bend, etc. And please wear longer shorts. We love our God, we love our wives, we want to see you as sisters. But when you wear such clothing it is hard to keep our thoughts pure. We want to have pure thoughts all the time. We want to keep our thoughts on the things of God and not be tempted by what can be seen. Please help us stay pure for God.”
That speech literally changed my life. The Lord used it to wake me up and realize what I do and wear does affect my brothers in Christ. And now I would do anything not only for them but for all men to dress more modestly so that they may not stumble and to help them be kept pure.
Men have it hard, immodesty is all over; billboards, grocery store line, tv, internet etc. Why be one more source of men’s struggle to stay pure for God and/or their wives.
I have heard time and time again from women of all walks of life, Christian and non-christian, that breast feeding is natural and beautiful therefore I should not have to cover up. Can I tell you “YES it is so beautiful.” It is one of the most beautiful things I have ever had the joy of doing. Yes it is super natural, God did create women’s bodies to be able to feed our children. But can I tell you going pee is just as natural as breast feeding. Making love to your spouse is just is natural and beautiful as breast feeding and yet these are done in the proper place and time. There are a lot of things that are natural and beautiful but that doesn’t mean they should all be exposed for the world to see.
Women, God created men to be visual and women to be relational when it comes to sexual things. When men see parts of our bodies God created them to automatically think about sexual things, it was how they were designed. The Lord did this for a husband and wife in private setting. God is asking us to be Modest to help our fellow brothers not to stumble, to help them stay pure for Him. When we expose parts of our body men do have sexual thoughts.
You may be thinking: “That is their problem not mine” “They shouldn’t be looking” “I can dress or do whatever I please it is their fault if they can’t help themselves” That may be true but then you are missing the point. God gave me this scripture after the men at Friend Ships got up and gave the speech: “Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.” This passage was referring to eating clean or unclean food. But God was showing me it can apply to this. To not put up stumbling blocks in front of our brothers in Christ. To help them by dressing modest in all that we wear. Whether in dresses, work clothes, work out outfits, swim suits, breast feeding, Etc. To look out for our brothers.
Women I am begging you to cover up when you breast feed. To look out for your brothers, to consider them above yourselves. Do not allow your freedom as a mother to cause your brothers to stumble. This scripture really spoke to me about the whole breast feeding controversy: “You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Galatians 5:13-14 (NIV) Love your brothers as yourself. Love them more than your right to breast feed uncovered. Love them more than your right as a mother to feed your child however you want. We need to look out for one another.
Don’t get me wrong I breast feed in public but I do cover up. (PS Gabriel hates it when I do and fights me. It ain’t no walk in the park) I do have a cover with me at all times. And if I feel a man will be uncomfortable with it I will go into another room. Shoot I have even gone into a stall in a public bathroom to feed just to protect the heart and mind of men. Why? Because I love my brothers so much I am willing to go out of my way to help them stay pure for the Lord. I am willing to be inconvenienced in order to show love to men.
Christian women please reconsider your stance on breast feeding. Please look at it from the men’s point of view, instead of just your own. Love your neighbor, in this case your brothers, as yourself.