Have you ever had a person who was always speaking for you or assumed you liked/disliked something when you didn’t. Did you ever feel like they really didn’t know you but somehow they kept assuming things about you that were just not true. A lot of us Christians treat God like this. That just because we have given our hearts to Him and now go to church, read our bible every once in a while that we know through and through this God.
Just the other day as I was spending time with God He said to me “You let me but me. A lot of people try to make me into what they want but you let me be me. Thank you.” Over the years I have heard some crazy assumptions about God. About what He likes and dislikes, about how he would respond to a certain situation. The whole WWJD (What would Jesus do) in our own opinion. We assume way too much.
I have had to learn that God has His own personality. He has His own likes and dislikes. And just because I am His servant/follower/daughter doesn’t mean I automatically know what He likes or His opinion on the matter. It doesn’t mean that just because I like something that He likes it too.
I think that is our biggest problem about letting God be Himself is that we assume that if we agree or disagree that means God feels the same way. It is kind of like a bossy spouse that continues to talk for her husband. She assumes that because she likes pizza he likes pizza, because she likes a certain movie type, he also likes that movie. And so on. Until one day he final says he doesn’t like a certain thing she does and the wife is shocked. She had assumed all these years because he didn’t say anything that he liked it. His reply, “You never let me speak, or tell you. You just assumed”
I can truly say God is my best friend. We interact on a daily basis. I talk He listens, He talks I listen. If I don’t know something about God I go and ask Him what his opinion is on the subject. I can honestly say that God and I do not always agree. There have been many times my opinion is in complete opposite of God’s. My standards compared to God’s have been as different as night and day. But here is the thing I know that God’s ways trump mine. That what He has to say about a matter is right every time. That means I have to line up with his thinking and not try to believe he will change to how I view things.
Here are some tips for you about how to not assume God feels the same way you do.
1. Spend time with Him. Don’t be the one talking the whole time. Close your mouth. Shut off your thoughts going a million miles a might and listen. God has a lot to say. He has a lot of likes and dislikes. He has a lot of views that are way different than yours and he wants to share them.
2. When you don’t know something about God ask him. Don’t just assume. His opinion on abortion, orphans, prostitutes, politics, same-sex marriage, the church, how to interact with people, dancing, make-up, modesty, relationships. God has an opinion about every one of these subjects and more. You just need to ask.
3. Stop talking for God when you don’t truly know the answer. Don’t always assume that just because you feel a certain way about a subject God is going to feel the same way. That is not how it works. Just because a wife feels a certain way about a matter doesn’t mean the husband will. Just because you have a relationship with God doesn’t mean you know God’s view on certain subjects.
4. And last let God be Himself. Let him have an opinion. Let him be able to communicate his ways to you. They are so much better than anything you could assume or come up with. Let God be God.
Wow I know that is a lot but it is important to Let God be Himself and not impose our feels or opinions into what God thinks or feels.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” Declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” – Isaiah 55:8-9